LIFE after Divorce or Separation

Isaiah 61
The Spirit of the Sovereign Lord is on me
because the Lord has anointed me
to proclaim good news to the poor
He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted,
to proclaim freedom for the captives
and release from darkness for the prisoners

• God does not encourage nor enjoy division. He is not in favor of broken fellowship. He is God of unity.
• God is not the author of destruction.
• Divorce - release a commitment that you had made for life. When you come into marriage, there is a war on to destroy you. Satan instigates everything to destroy it. We commit to each other to defend each other for life. Divorce is thus apostasy. 
• Promises are made to humans - vows are made to God. A vow is unto death. (Eccl.2). Built into a vow is the penalty. My making a vow, it allows God to judge you if you break it.
• Marriage is not made for divorce.

Separation

• If you are not able to handle the effects of a divorce/separation, you will eventually die.
• A key problem with divorce/separation is denial. Healing starts with acceptance.

Psalm 43:5

Why are you so downcast oh my soul, why so disturbed within me?

• Depression is a result of disappointed expectations.

How to Recover from Divorce/Separation

1. Where are you in your recovery? Did you avoid it (emotionally and mentally). This is avoiding it.
2. Others escape it by getting into another relationship too quick. There is no escape from the real feelings of trauma. The best way to deal with it is look at it straight into the eye.
3. Denial. Mentally block it and assume it didn't happen.
4. Acceptance. Others accept and deal with it.